My mom always talk negative about me and tell other family members negative things about me Is this Normal?

My mom is a little nutty sometimes too.. You just have to be strong and talk to her appropreately.. Tell her in a calm way that when she talks about you that way it makes you feel very uncomfortable.. Ask her if she wants to talk in private more often about things that she is upset by.. Reasure her that you love her and that you want to build a stronger relationship with her..